People pleasing is the act of going against your authenticity and your boundaries to please another person because you feel as though if you don’t do what makes them happy, they will get upset with you. People pleasing is something that many people partake in. Over the years I have come to realize that it stems from fear and a lack of boundaries.
Fear sets in when you feel as though you will lose people if you speak your truth and let them know that you don’t want to attend their party, their function, or hang out with them when they may want you to. Let’s say one of your friends wanted you to go to the movies, but you were absolutely exhausted and had loads of work.
Out of fear you may say “yes” to that friend. You may also fear that if you say “no” there will be a conflict. This is where overthinking comes in. You are already thinking of having a potential argument and an unsatisfactory outcome.
When you keep saying...
It can feel isolating to have stress, depression, and anxiety. Sometimes mental health issues are not recognized as a “true” illness. It can be frustrating to wake up each and everyday feeling chronically unhappy, overwhelmed, drained, debilitated, and just not good. It can be frustrating to feel all of these things and feel as if you are being dismissed because of it.
Some people have the mindset that only physical health issues are real and mental health issues are not. This mindset really needs to change. People are really suffering and their pain is real. I struggled with depression, anxiety, stress, PMS for many, many years. Trauma played a huge role in this process. I will never forget when I was 11 years old watching “Dark Shadows” and not being able to get up off the couch.
I was so debilitated. My stomach was having spasms, my tears stuck to my face and the sweat stuck my shirt to my...